Curious kid

Naturally children are very curious. Answering all their questions can be tiring but remember those unanswered questions can cause a real big trouble one day. I am not a parent yet but I did help my mother to babysit children for many years. The most frequent question we encounter them asking is about the sexual difference and physical appearance. 

I started to search and ask around what is the best possible way of explaining these matter without being shy and at the same time providing only the information that they need at that age.

Here is a summary in form of Q&A:

            Situation 1

1.       What is this mummy? (While pointing at your breast)
 This is breast. Big girls have it so that when they have baby after marriage, the baby could drink milk from it. (Show pictures of other mammals feeding their babies such as a calf feeding on a cow’s milk to bring a more positive conversation). Take time to explain babies have no teeth and can only drink milk from mother.

2.       Did I drink milk from your breast too?

Yes dear. Now you have your teeth so you don’t need mummy’s milk anymore. So mummy stop producing milk for you.

3.       Why I don’t have a breast?

For girl: Because you are not a big girl yet.
For boy: Because you are not a girl. You don’t need to feed a baby in future dear.

              Situation 2

1.      Why my baby brother have that thing?

Because he is a boy. Girls and boys have difference there. That is how mummy and daddy know you are a girl or a boy when you born. It is called a private part.

2.       What is a private part?

Private part is a body part that you can’t show to others or see that of others. No touching either. It is your tiny little secret okay? Once you show it, nobody will respect you and your privacy anymore. Do you want that to happen?

           Situation 3

1.       How do babies born?

Okay here it goes. Mummy and daddy become good friends. When we both finished schooling and started to work, we love each other so much and decided to live together. So mummy and daddy get married. Then because daddy love mummy so much every day, a baby start to grow in mummy’s tummy. After nine months growing in mummy’s tummy the doctor take the baby from mummy’s tummy. That baby is you.

(There is NO NEED of adding magical elements (eg: the fairy left you outside our house one day) or hugging kissing elements (eg: married+stay together+hug+kiss= baby) or complicated things (ovum+sperm= baby) in this story yet. Trust me. It works.)

These are just few. If I get more of it, I will share it here. Hope it helps.