Really? Are you happy in that way? I have better solution...

DON'T FORCE SOMEONE TO REMEMBER YOU ALL THE TIME, JUST STAY SILENT AND LET THEM REALIZE HOW WILL THEY BE WITHOUT YOU IN THEIR LIFE...... 

- I came across this statement and I was like, really? Are you happy with that?

Well, if you asked me, both the actions above are equally waste of time. 

Forcing someone to remember you or spend time with you is obviously against the person’s willingness and the extra time you force them to spend with you will leave no sweet memories anyway. You probably end up arguing or seeing their face listening to you with no or least interest. So why force? It is a total waste of time.

The second statement, holding yourself by avoiding remembering them, forcing yourself to pretend you don’t care, staying silent to make them realize and miss you is not going to benefit you either.

In the first statement, you force the person you love against their will, in the second statement, you force yourself against you own will. Life is not about forcing someone or yourself. Such forcing act is not going to benefit both parties. Forcing someone hurts you and forcing yourself will hurt that someone and if it doesn't hurt them, you get hurt in the end right?

You see, life is about living your life. How you are living it, how you are appreciating people in your life, how concern are you about your loved ones and how much effort you put in to make things work. Your life should not take into account how someone living their life, how they appreciate your presence, how concern are they about you and how much effort they put in to make things work. It is their own business, it is their life.

Be a person who do anything that make yourself happy instead of making others happy. Even if that person is your parents, siblings, sweetheart or friends, do things that make you happy. If making them happy is your happiness, do it heartily. In that way, you will never expect anything in return from them because you have done your part well which have made you happy. Your happiness should be the only reward for your actions. Their reaction is a just a bonus.

Always remember, happiness starts from you, not from anyone else.